Monday, April 13, 2015

Are You Ready For the Summer?

Dear friends in Student Ministry: Summer is almost upon us! Are you ready to make the most of all of the free time your students will have? Here are some thoughts on how I became a huge fan of summer ministries, originally posted back in 2009. 

In the early days of professional youth ministry it was commonplace for summer to be downtime for the Youth Pastor. This never made any sense to me. We would take three months when students were usually available and often bored and churches would slow down their youth ministries. Many youth workers were not paid during the summer months and had to find other jobs. In fact, I spent my earliest summers in ministry working at a summer camp because I had summers off. By the time of my first summer at Springfield Friends Meeting in 1987 all of this was changing. We planned events on Wednesdays and Sundays and our first trip to Disney World. At the 1987 NYWC I attended a seminar that challenged me to expand our summer ministry and to improve our communication. The summer of 1988 was my first shot at doing both.

The programs and events for that summer now seem very tame by my later standards, but they were the start of something big! We continued to meet on Sunday afternoons and Wednesday nights (giving our award-winning TNT program the summer off). We took trips to Myrtle
Beach (That's Amy, Lavonia, Andi & Heather pictured at The Betsy B in 1988) and Atlanta. We had our first ever Youth Week, with events every day, including a trip to Carowinds and a concert by me at the Covered Bridge Pizza Parlor in Archdale. We had our first ever Breakfast Club; our first ever trip to feed the homeless of High Point at Our Father's Table; our first ever end of the summer Luau!  We collected cans of tuna to help Urban Ministry feed the hungry. We attended Quaker Lake together and had our own class at VBS. Every ministry and event that would come in the later years got a start in the summer of '88.

It was also the year of the first Summer Ministries Booklet. This picture is the cover from 1990, but the little guy, Zed, was on the cover for the first four years. In 1988 he was carrying a surfboard. The booklet laid out the plan for our summer, giving details and sign-up deadlines. Students and parents alike loved the concept; looking back, it was a website in print years before anyone had a website! In the years to come the summer info packet would grow and the schedule would expand, but it all started in 1988. Nothing I ever accomplished in youth ministry created as much of a buzz or brought as much praise my way from students and their parents as my summer schedules over the years. And no one enjoyed the hectic pace, the frantic planning and the incredible amount of time spent with students any more than me! I thank God every day for the many blessings I received through the ministries, events and programs I led for all those years. Too many churches still treat summer as a time to slow down. I respectfully suggest just the opposite. Summer is a time to shift into high gear. Students have actual free time. Wouldn't it be awesome to have them spend it with the church? The time to start planning is NOW...

Because of Jesus,

Sunday, April 12, 2015

What Is Your Image of God?

Inspired by the work of Curt Cloninger...

It has long been clear to me that how we picture God has a tremendous impact on our faith. Whether it be through bad teaching, bad theology or simple misunderstanding, many of us see God as having attributes that simply do not exist. We talk about the "God of the Old Testament" as if God has a split personality, failing to realize that Jesus is the New Covenant who changed everything. This is crucial, because the way we view God influences the way we think God views us. Take a look at the list below and see if any of these "personas" of God have ever found their way into your thinking...

God as Darth Vader - Do what God tells you to do and everything will be cool. Lose one rebel ship because it jumped to light speed and feel the cold hand of doom on your shoulder. God does not like failures...
God as Genie - Your wish is God's command! Some people call this prayer, but we all know it's all about telling God what you need want and waiting for Him to deliver. Plus, there is none of that silly 3 wish limit stuff!
God as Judge Judy - Break a law and you will pay. There will no mercy for law breakers, especially if it happens to be one of the Top 10. If God catches you coveting your neighbor's key lime pie, you might as well pack your bags for hell...
God as Grumpy Old Man - God is not actually in control of things anymore. He just sits in the recliner and complains about the state of things on earth and how no one listens to Him anymore. Occasionally yells at the young folks to "Get off my lawn!"  
God as Bartender - God is always there to listen, to ease your pain, and to give you a little something to take the edge off. But He's not really gonna' do anything about it.
God as Cosmic Killjoy - Does something look like fun? Then God doesn't like it. He wants you to be solemn and miserable. Everything that sounds like a good time must be against His rules. That's why soccer, rap & disco succeeded- absolutely nothing fun about those things.  :)
God as Financial Advisor - We should give freely to our churches and TV evangelists, not because we want to give back to God but because if we do He will make us wealthy beyond our wildest dreams!  So you don't forget, order your autographed Last Supper Menu before midnight tonight and you will be blessed!
God as Life of the Party - You hang with God, and life will be all sunshine and parties. No sadness, no struggles and no worrying about people who might need your help. God will keep you smiling and smelling good!

Do any of those sound familiar to you? Or do you have your very own view of God? Before you answer, here's one more I left out...

God as Loving Parent - Need to be held accountable? God can do that. Need someone to lean on when the world has got you down? God is always there. Need to be convicted of your sins? He's the One for the job. Need to be loved unconditionally? God is the ONLY one who will do that.  In John 15:14-15  Jesus says, "You are my friends if you do what I command.  I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends..." The great worship band Delirious expressed it like this: "What a friend I've found, closer than a brother. It would break our hearts to ever lose each other...Jesus, friend forever." God came to us in human form so that we would know how much he loves us- and that's what the Jesus Revolution is all about. You want to know how much he cares about you? Read Luke 12:6-7. He knows everything about you and loves you more than you can imagine. The almighty creator of the universe (YAHWEH) loves us like a daddy (ABBA). How amazing is that...

So let me ask you again- How do you view God?

Because of Jesus,

Saturday, April 11, 2015

Saturday Shout Outs!

Happy Saturday friends and neighbors, and welcome to another edition of the Shout Outs! I hope that April has been good to you so far and that you all had a fabulous Easter. Life is good here, with summertime temps and lots of sunshine. The last 14 days have seen lots of traffic here at the blog, with my Holy Week posts getting lots of attention. Also, the first two entries in my Things I Believe (and you probably don't!) series- Haven't We Been Here Before & Do We Even WANT to be Like Jesus? - are two of my most read posts ever. It's exciting to know people are responding to what I write, and it makes me want to keep pushing the envelope and writing what I believe. But now it's time to shout. LOUD! Here we go!

  • My prayers and love go out to two very special women in NC, both of whom I have known for many years, who share a September 10th birthday and a battle against cancer. Leigh Ann Venable (Quaker Lake) and Lisa Moran (New Garden Friends) are inspiring so many with their faith, strength and courage as they battle this horrible disease. Please keep them and their families in your thoughts and prayers. #CancerSucks
  • My favorite new album in a very long time came out on Tuesday, and I cannot stop listening! Brian Wilson, the founder of The Beach Boys, released No Pier Pressure featuring collaborations with a number of artists including Nate Ruess of FUN. and former Beach Boys Al Jardine, David Marks and Blondie Chaplin. If you like great melodies and amazing vocals, check it out. Soooo good...
  • Congratulations to Elizabeth Tillman Barwick (TNT/Springfield Friends) on the birth of a son, Tillman Frederick Barwick, on April 3rd. Mom and baby are doing well, and we celebrate with the family!
  • Where the heck did National Siblings Day come from? I had never heard of it before yesterday. And when is National I Only Have 7 Toes Day?  Just saying...
  • I was just wondering this week- can Lisa Kraus Spires (FUMC-Kissimmee) still eat her weight in crab legs? We need to get together soon and find out, Lisa! My mind is so odd...
  • OK baseball fans, I need your help. My Tampa Bay Rays have a really good chance of being awful this season. I will continue to support them, but I am looking for a back-up plan featuring a team that might actually be in a pennant race at the end of the summer. Nominations are now being accepted, but I'm leaning toward the Tigers because they have David Price and the Padres because they have Wil Myers - both ex-Rays whom I loved. But I am willing to listen to other arguments.
  • Speaking of baseball...do any of my former Springfield Friends Meeting youth remember the night we went to a Braves/Dodgers doubleheader in Atlanta and the TBS cameras caught some of you sleeping in the stadium seats?  Good times...
  • Hey old friends from my days as a youth at New Garden Friends Meeting- remember the time we raced our way back from Myrtle Beach in a bunch of cars and waited until stop lights turned red to go through them so no one else could and various other stupid things? Thought about that episode this week and even some 38 years later I still just can't believe we did that! 
  • My Twitter friends have been so supportive and encouraging over these past few weeks, even more that usual! If you're on Twitter and we don't follow each other, I'm @Youthguy07. Hit me up!
  • Hey Lisa Jewett (Wesley Memorial UMC)- it's finally time. A trip to Clearwater Beach and Crabby's for a Mahi sandwich is in our future. Marilyn is ready. I'm ready. Let's do it!
  • We have heard through the grapevine that the legend himself, Jerry Hanbery (FUCM-K), wants to have a big party at his house that will be a mini-reunion for central Florida locals who survived our years together. No plans have actually been made, so this is here today for 2 reasons. One, to put the pressure on Jerry. And two, so I can type the following phrase: Party at Jerry's house!!! 
  • And finally...  My book, Even Better Than Before, got lots of good reviews (and a few great ones!) from those who received a copy via e-mail. But there are still quite a few of you who owe me a book review. No pressure or threats (YET) but I am curious to know what you thought. Or if you were even able to finish it. So give me a shout if you get a chance, and I will be very (or for a few old friend who go WAY back, VURY) appreciative.
So there you have it, a random assortment of rambling shout outs. Enjoy the weekend. It's good to be alive!

Because of Jesus,

Friday, April 10, 2015

Flashback Friday: "Have you got a match?"


Every April with the start of baseball season this story comes to mind and the horror is fresh all over again. I've shared it here before; it's here again today as a great Flashback Friday blast from the past. Enjoy!

In April of 1982 I was working at New Garden Friends Meeting, and we had some great things going on in the ministry. Lots of students were attending, Donna Haynes and I were exploring all kinds of new programs and events, and we had just claimed (not won, but claimed!) victory at the annual North Carolina Yearly Meeting Field Day at Quaker Lake. It was in this atmosphere of success that I planned a quick trip to Atlanta to see a Braves games for myself and a few of our high school guys. It would be a most memorable weekend.

There were signs all along the way that this would be an unusual event. First of all, the Braves, pitiful for so long, had begun the season with 13 straight wins, a major league record. We would see their 14th game. Since there were 6 of us going, my car was not large enough, so I borrowed a station wagon from some parents of the youth, Loy and Connie Newby. As we left Greensboro and began the trek down I-85, we were excited and loud, a regular car full of regular young men. Somewhere in South Carolina we found a radio station that was doing a unique event. It was a song challenge. They would play 2 songs to battle each other, and then a third song while people called in their votes. This being WAY before cell phones, we couldn't vote, but it was fun to listen. The winning song would then be give another competitor and played again. After a few rounds of this, the AC/DC song Highway to Hell became the champion. And then it won again. And again. And again! We soon grew sick of the song (it finally lost to the Beatles!) but we realized then and there this trip had a theme, and it was not a good one! Entering Georgia, we stopped at a truck stop for gas and several of us decided to try a Nehi Peach Soda, which may have been the most disgusting thing I have ever tried to drink, and remember, I was a youth pastor and was used to disgusting things! But finally, we arrived in Atlanta.

After checking in at our hotel, a Ramada Inn (I think) across from Atlanta-Fulton County Stadium, we headed over for the game. It was exciting to be there when the crowd was actually thinking the Braves could win. We settled in and watched as the Braves lost for the first time that year. Bob Horner hit a home run for the Braves, but I missed it while standing in line for food. More signs- but we still didn't see them. As we left the game it was still light out, so we decided to walk up and visit the golden dome of the Georgia state capitol building which was just up the street.

I should tell you a little about the group. Marshall Ratledge, later to become a Quaker Lake legend himself; Danny and Darek Newby (whose parents loaned me the car), who were both black belts in some sort of martial arts; Jimmy Hale, a golfer; Bruce Reynolds, football player and track star; and myself made up our merry band. We were all dressed in classic preppy, and we headed into downtown Atlanta on foot absolutely clueless of what we were about to encounter. As we started down the sidewalk we had came to a group of young men who were standing on corner, and smiled as we came to them. One of them stepped out and asked if we had a match. None of us were smokers, but we felt in our pockets and acted disappointed that we could not help out. We then continued on. We saw the dome, and were not impressed, so we started back to the hotel, now walking the sidewalk on the opposite side of the street. As we reached the bridge over I-20 and started across, we began to hear voices yelling. We looked across the street, and it was our friends who wanted a match. I could here one of them yelling "6 on 6! Come on, 6 on 6!" In my coolest leader voice I said to the guys "just ignore them and keep walking." Then the first glass beer bottle hit near us and shattered, and, still being cool, I said "pick up the pace." As more more bottles hit, and finally a plastic flask full of liquor, I very calmly shouted "RUN!!!!" As we sprinted up the slight hill towards a stop light where a policeman was directing traffic, three very interesting things were happening. They had come to our side of the street, but weren't really chasing us. We were sprinting, and I was in FRONT, meaning I was out-running our track star Bruce! And finally, as I counted heads, I kept getting 5, when there were in fact 6 of us! I looked back to see that Darek was not running. He was very calmly walking behind us. When we all reached the corner, we hurried to tell the police officer the whole story. He just starred at me. After lecturing me for walking downtown in the early evening in a city where gangs ruled, he then cut to the chase. "A match" he informed us, "is gang talk for a fight. When they were yelling 6 on 6 they were calling you out. When you walked by them and checked your pockets for a real match, they took that as a sign of disrespect. Now go back to your hotel and DO NOT leave it again tonight!"  We did just that. After arriving in our rooms, we locked every lock we could find, and then began talking trash about how we could have beaten them...to ourselves, of course! We also began to question what good it was two have 2 black belts with us if they were not going to protect us. What could have been a real disaster turned into a memory I will never forget, and I suspect they won't either. I have been to Atlanta with groups many times since, and I never fail to tell the story of the night the 6 preppies almost got in a gang fight!

On the trip back we only had one major incident. We were filling the gas tank when the automatic shut off on the pump failed, and we pumped a few gallons of gas all over the car and the parking lot. All in all, we survived the "highway to hell" and lived to tell about it. And as with many other youth trips over the years, this shared history became a cornerstone of our relationships.  And our relationships with each other lead to a better understanding of our relationship with God.

I suppose there should be a moral to this story, so here it is: NEVER drink Nehi Peach Soda!


Because of Jesus,

Thursday, April 9, 2015

Do We Even WANT to be Like Jesus?

About 10 days ago I shared a post called Haven't We Been Here Before? that served as the kick-off to a random new series called Things I Believe (and you probably don't)! This is post #2 in the series, and again, it is a serious one. The next one will be on why gravy is its own food group. Like I said, random! So here we go with yet another attempt at rattling the cages of the institutional church...and my own life...


Steve Taylor wrote many years ago that Christians want to be clones. That could be a good thing. We should desire to be clones of Jesus- after all, Christian means "Christ-like." But Steve's point was that too many in the church want to be clones of the person sitting next to them in the pew far more than they want to be like Jesus. It's safer. It's easier. And it's far more popular in our country today. I agree. I believe that the Church of Jesus Christ in these United States has no desire or intent to really be like Jesus. I know we can't BE Jesus- he was God- but we can strive to be like him. We are called to be like him. Don't get me wrong- I know there are millions who believe in God, who worship on Sundays, who read scripture and who claim Jesus as their savior. But being like him, really following him...well that's just too much for far too many of us. Just let me go to church and leave me alone! If we were like Jesus would we spend so much time and effort arguing about whether same sex couples should be allowed to have committed legal relationships, or would our efforts be spent feeding the hungry and housing the homeless? If we were as radical as the Christ would we embrace "turning the other cheek" over pulling out our handguns to "defend" ourselves? If we were like Jesus would we be less concerned with patriotism and more concerned with the family of God- all of humanity? If we were like Jesus the church would know no racial segregation and we would treat every sin, creed and nationality with equal love. We can never be perfect as he was perfect, but we could be so much better. If we wanted to.

And then there's the issue of money. Jesus said to the rich young ruler that to enter the Kingdom he had to "sell what he had and give it to the poor." Are any of us lining up to do that? Quite the opposite, many of our church leaders are gathering great wealth even as you read this. We have churches that teach classes on accumulating wealth, and others who see material gain as a sign that we are in God's good graces. These leaders also tend to portray under-resourced people as lazy, stupid and beneath them. That is not WWJD! God will be their judge, but if it really is easier for a camel to get through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the Kingdom of God then people like Dave Ramsey and Franklin Graham have shrinking needles. And the humps on those camels are growing larger every day. In this country we tend to pay homage to our God and to worship our nation and our wealth. We treasure riches- you know, the stuff moths will eat, rust will destroy and thieves will break in and steal (Matthew 6:19) according to Jesus. We also love power. We love being in control, feeling like we are somehow above those around us. That's the antithesis of being like Christ. It has been said that the ONLY way to follow Jesus is on our knees. It's about surrender- and we are not fans of surrender. It's for the weak. Well guess what- so is Jesus. And anyone- ANYONE- who chooses hate over love, power over humility, aggression over peace and the flag over the cross is not going to "be like Jesus." We fool ourselves because we can be like the people in the pews and still make those choices. But that is not like the Christ. Jesus was inclusive, forgiving and sacrificial. So that's the bottom line for us all. Do we fit that definition? Or are we happy with the Jacob's Ladder description of faith? "Sing along, send some money and join the chosen few..."

So how do we become more like the One we claim to follow? He already told us. Be humble. Don't judge. Be a peacemaker. Be a servant. Take care of the sick, the downtrodden, the prisoners and those who don't think like us. Give up what we think is important and recognize that whatever the question, love is the answer. For too many years the church has buried itself in political issues, power and judgement, wanting people to be like US more than we want them to be like Jesus. It's time to quit playing church and BE the church. And the only way to do that- the ONLY way- is to be like Jesus. Do we want it? I remain unconvinced...

Because of Jesus,

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Explaining Duke/UNC to Floridians

Congratulations to Duke and Coach K on #5...but...

I'm a Tar Heel born, I'm a Tar Heel bred,
and when I die I'll be a Tar Heel dead..."



Yesterday afternoon I was out walking the dog when I encountered one of our neighbors doing the same. We stopped to chat as we often do. He noticed I was wearing my Carolina (let's start offending people right now- there is only one Carolina. NORTH CAROLINA!) hat and asked if I had watched the national championship game and if I was sad that Duke won. He seemed surprised when informed that while we did watch the game, we were cheering for the Blue Devils. In fact. the reason I had on my UNC hat was cheering for Duke always makes me feel a little bit dirty. But I always pull for original ACC teams in the tourny unless they are playing my Heels. Sorry, Louisville, Notre Dame, Syracuse and others- you haven't earned that respect from me yet. We then talked for a few minutes about the Duke/Carolina rivalry.


I have lived in Florida for most of the past 20 years now, and from day one people have said things like this to me- "Yeah we get that rivalry. It's like Florida/Florida State in football." My neighbor said this yesterday. I generally just nod and smile while thinking, "You have NO idea." Bur for reasons I cannot explain, yesterday my disagreement with that statement came pouring out. As I said to him, in one sense yes- it is a traditional rivalry between two quality programs. But here's the difference. UNC and Duke are in the same conference. The games always matter and are usually (see graphics on this page) ridiculously close. But what matters even more is geography. Here's how I explained it: "You know Tampa is home to both the U. of South Florida and The U. of Tampa. They are about 10 miles apart. Imagine if those 2 schools were Florida and FSU, with students from both schools living in the same apartment complexes, eating at the same restaurants and drinking at the same bars. ALL THE TIME! In two small NC towns,not a metroplex like Tampa Bay. And they were both in the SEC. And they had both won 5 national championships. That is Duke/Carolina." He was both surprised and a little take aback. He had no idea they were that close together. I continued: "And there's more. That rivalry is not like North vs. South, it's personal like the Hatfields and McCoys. They are not just competitors like Ohio State/Michigan, they are neighbors on the same way East and West Berlin used to be. Blue is not a color in NC- it is a line of demarcation. Duke Blue or Carolina Blue. Choose one. But you do have to choose. And it's not just local, it's national. Ratings spike when they play, and every game in on TV. If they ever play each other for the national championship it will be the most watched college basketball game in history. This rivalry MATTERS. " 

He then asked given all of that how I could possibly bring myself to cheer for Duke on Monday night. It's like family, I told him. It's ok for me to beat up my little brother, but I'll always have his back with the bullies come calling. The ACC is like family for many of us. We love our teams, but we rejoice with our brothers as well.


There are many great rivalries in sports, but it is the intimacy of the schools as well as the unmatched quality of the basketball programs that set UNC/Duke apart in my mind. The Green Bay Packers and the Chicago Bears have one of the great longtime rivalries in all of sports, with decades of history, great animosity and multiple championships between them. But imagine how the intensity  of those games would increase if they were both great most every year, if they often had to play 3 times a year, and if BOTH teams called the little town of Green Bay home. That's Duke/Carolina. It's just unmatched. 

So congrats to Duke on a job well done. But now it's back to business as usual. The Tar Heels look loaded for next year. DOOK is going down!

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Roadblocks

In May of 1979 myself and my friends Alan Brown and Carl Semmler left Greensboro, NC for a month long road trip. Traveling in my dad's Honda Civic Wagon (his name was Clyde) we made stops in Chattanooga, New Orleans, San Antonio and Flagstaff. We visited the Grand Canyon and the Painted Desert. We made it to Las Vegas to visit my uncle and his family before heading to LA. The trip may sound orderly and well planned, but trust me- it was anything but. There were far too many misadventures to recount them all here today, but I do want to share one. Our plan was to leave southern Cali and drive up the Pacific Coast Highway to San Francisco. Upon further review before leaving LA we discovered three major problems. First, we were on the west coast and had to get back to the east coast, and we were already running short on funds. Secondly, this was during the first major gas crisis in our country, and the state of CA was rationing. You could only buy gas every other day, based on your license plate numbers. And finally, and most decidedly, we learned there has been a major mudslide a week or so earlier, and large portions of the PCH we impassable. Closed to all traffic- even Clyde. So with much regret, we gave up on seeing San Fran and began the trek back east. To this day, I have still never been. Sacramento was as close as I ever got.

Every journey comes with roadblocks. Life on the #NarrowRoad is no different. Some are just irritants, little hassles that can be handled fairly easily with a small change of direction. Some require full detours that take us places we had never planned to go, changing both our direction and our timing. And sometimes, even as we follow Jesus, the roadblocks we encounter are mudslides that bury the path in a way that simply makes us stop. There is nothing to do but re-evaluate our goals and our map and seek the direction that Jesus would have us go. And that can be a real pain, occasionally leaving us lost and frustrated.

The question is not "Will we encounter roadblocks as we try to follow Jesus?" We will, and they will come in all shapes and sizes. Some will be potholes, easily maneuvered  around. Some will be wrecks that block one lane but allow us to choose another. Some will be 5 car pile-ups that back traffic up for hours. And sometimes the road will be buried under mud, or the bridge will be out. The question is not "if." The question is "How do we respond when detours arise or the road is closed?" Are we easily frustrated? Are we easily defeated? Do we give up when the easy path is shut down and we are forced to go a more difficult way? The #NarrowRoad is narrow for a reason. It takes work, dedication, sacrifice and commitment to travel it with any level of success. Too many times the roadblocks stop us in our tracks. To really follow Jesus, we have to break through. We have to love when others don't, care when others won't, and find ways to bring praise to the One who made us.

There is a point, however, when the highway analogy breaks down. On a road trip, our goal is generally to get where we WANT to go. On the #NarrowRoad, we seek destinations where God NEEDS us to be. Sometimes the very things that seem to block our paths are God's means of redirecting us. Sometimes these are subtle. And sometimes they are anything but. Think abut the stories from scripture. Noah's roadblock was being asked to build a boat when there was no water. Moses was given a speaking engagement with a king when he had a speech impediment. David was asked to slay a giant with a rock; he later had to bounce back from great sexual sin to lead God's people as he chose King. Peter denied knowing Jesus; the other disciples ran away and hid when the Messiah needed them. Paul was shipwrecked, beaten and thrown in jail. And all of them wound up exactly where God need them to be!

My query for us all today is this- what are the things in our lives that we see as roadblocks but are actually God sending us a new direction? On that 1979 trip we has to skip northern California, and I really wanted to go. But here's the deal. If we hadn't been roadblocked into starting back when we did and on the route we did, we would have missed some of the most amazing adventures of that trip. So embrace life's roadblocks. There just may be something amazing awaiting on the other side.

Because of Jesus,